Is there a right way to live?
G: What do you want to know?
L: Is there a right way to do life?
G: No.
L: It’s that simple?
G: Yes.
L: Did I do a disservice to my kids, having them when I was older, in my early forties? (I do appreciate the miracle that I did!)
G: Everything happens the way it was meant to.
L: Yeah, yeah, life unfolding and all that. I sound like a petulant child. What I really am beginning to see is that I have held onto the notion that there is a right way to live life. Or at least a best way to do things. Is there an ideal way to live life Gus?
G: Yes, trust… there’s a more pleasant and enjoyable way to live life.
You are paying attention to what you do, how much you get done, and how you do it?
L: Ouch, when you put it that way it sounds like an over analyzed life. “Think it through,” “Use your head,” “Don’t be so emotional.” We get a lot of encouragement to analyze everything we do. Or maybe I just take it to extremes? It’s exhausting trying to decipher the right way to do everything. And even worse when I go online to find out how other people do it. What to wear, how to build a business, decorate, be a good friend, re-sole Birkenstocks….
G: Hmmm, in what areas do you search for how to do something, and how does that feel?
L: When I come from the premise that I don’t know what to wear, at first it feels like curiosity, then I research, but I soon get overwhelmed with options and judge the heck out of them, and my ability to achieve them.
One of the things I love about our mornings is how quiet my mind is. That there’s space to hear your answers. I don’t want to ruin that.
L: But there are so many choices. What do I pick?
G: Just because there are a of choices doesn’t mean you have to consider them.
L: Really?
G: Really.
L: But they’re all there! Why are they there if not for us to consider them?
G: There’s our way, and there’s another person’s way.
L: How do I know my what my way is?
G: You’ll know. You’ll know how. You’ll know when. You’ll just find yourself doing something. And it will be your way. It will be when you want to do it. It will be effortless even though it may take some effort.
G: You naturally decide what you want to do, where you want to get to. Focus on where you’re going and the way to get there will occur to you one step at a time.
L: Will it though?
G: If you’re not distracting yourself with all the paths to get there. If you’ve already jumped online to research options before you’ve given space to hear the direction formulating inside you.
L: It’s like i panic and seek guidance outside myself. I look to ‘the experts’.
G: ‘Expert’ is a funny notion in your realm. It’s just someone who tried it their way and it worked. It wasn’t what they did or how they did it. They just actually did it, moved forward with something, not hijacked by researching the ‘right’ way.
L: This is a useful conversation, thank you.
G: I agree. How does it feel when you break free from thinking about something to physically doing it?
L: It’s such a relief! I switch gears into paying attention to the present unfolding of it, the process of it and work through the challenges it presents in real time. Like last night posting this blog; all the challenges and little things it takes to post, and learning as I go. It’s engaging and fun.
G: I can feel your energy rise as you talk about the real-time process of doing rather than analyzing, researching, and trying to figure out the right way through thinking about it before you do anything. Pre-thinking. `